30 Days of Kia ♥

Day 8

What’s important to me

Now, when I was putting this thing together, I initially was thinking about the type of guy I need in my life aka future booski aka my future boyfriend that (Lord willing) will be future husband. But as I went on, the type of people I need in my life period need to possess (because these are the qualities I try to possess) (and like Katt Williams said you gotta be around people that’s doing better and better and better. You gotta stop hanging around people who are doing that same stuff) (and of course that’s the G rated version of what he said lol).

Now, with the future man analogy, I used a guy who was average looking, but possessed everything I will list in a minute and a guy that I thought was very attractive but I knew his lifestyle was off (in this case, it was Fabolous). Now the top factors here are obviously looks and personality. Personality includes everything about a person, whether people realize it or not, beliefs being the top thing controlling the whole operation: what a person believes (religion, opinions about life, etc) shape their words, actions, style, dress, everything.
So then I said, what if I was on Bachelorette. If it was down to the average, wouldn’t be a double take, probably wouldn’t give him a second thought AND the dude I thought was very sexy. Both dudes were pretty much the same in musical ability, money, all that stuff, except lifestyle and looks. I thought, who would I honestly pick? What dude would get that rose or whatever they do on that show (I don’t watch Bachelorette, so I don’t know what they do lol). I honestly, I would pick the no double take dude. Now, if you would have caught me about 5, 6 years ago, maybe even three or two years ago, I def would have picked the Fabolous dude. “Why?” you say. “I thought you loved Jesus soooo much?! How could you pick a dude that’s so not like you, Kia? That’s something I would expect somebody else to do, but not goodie two shoes Kia.”
First off, nobody’s perfect. AND I was younger in age back then and a babe in the faith. Still trying to figure stuff out, still trying to understand what was important in the long run and what was important to me. I was still trying to figure out what I liked in a guy anyway. So, that’s some transparency for you. (Actually, if you would have caught me last month, the chance would still be there for me to pick the dude I knew was not the right puzzle piece for me. I had to pray on that one. Ya girl would have bent a little for this dude. Not a good look, I know I know).
Anyway, so I started to think, why would I pick a no double take dude over Fabolous dude? And I realized it’s because of who I am and who I've become.
So skip skip skip, the things I started speaking out of my mouth were scriptural. A few years ago, half of what I spoke of my mouth would have been scriptural, and that would have been on a good day. But the stuff I said is as follows
• If he on his Romans 12:1-2 (his mind and body)
• His Ephesians 4:29 (his speech)
• On his Philippians 2:5 (his mind)
• Philippians 13:4-7 (love)
Few in number, but powerful in meaning. If a dude is doing these things, that’s a beautiful thing. Now if he just so happens to be beautiful with some swag, ay, I'm not gon complain. But there’s just something that is so beautiful about a man’s mind, something that will forever exhibit his true beauty better than any Armani suit and cufflinks, better than any amount of money he could ever spend on a wardrobe, a car, a haircut, a tan.


How does this translate into friends? A made family? Your crew? Simple. You want like minded people around you. Somebody that thinks like you. Unless that "opposites attract" thing is coming into play (which that opposite components have to end somewhere), it’s not really gonna work, in any relationship. So yeah. Embrace it, fear it, love it, share it, comment, blog, reply, all of that!!